Sunday, August 28, 2011

"What Difference Do it Make?"

Over the last few weeks i've been reading a book (and its sequel) that I would have never expected to be my new favorite book of all time, "Same Kind of Different as Me" and "What Difference Do it Make?" These books have touched me in ways I couldn't have imagined and have completely changed the way I stereotypically viewed a specific group of people: the homeless.



Homeless people. They are all addicted to drugs, right? They all have drinking problems, they all deserve to be homeless because they mismanaged their money, they're ignorant, they're psychotic, etc. Let's be honest with ourselves... we've probably all thought some of these things at one time or another. Sure, a very small portion of these people may fit the stereotypical description, but the truth is that we could ALL be homeless in the blink of an eye. 

Ex1: You were in the military, bomb went off, you're now disabled but the money you're given isn't enough to maintain your home, and the pain you're in  or your handicap keep you from being able to hold a job. On top of that, lets say you get sick and the medical bills are outrageous. Before you know it you're deciding which bills to pay off and which bills to let slide. You choose to pay for your life-saving medical treatment instead of paying your rent. A few months go by and before you know it, you have an eviction notice. You have no family. You are now homeless.

Ex2: You work hard your whole life to provide and your wife gets cancer, or your child gets leukemia and can no longer stay at home. The doctor tells you that they only have a 6 months left. You work hard to pay the medical bills but you're self employed and the insurance you have isn't covering enough of it and the bills stack up. The worse your loved one gets, the less you feel like being at work because you want to be by their side. Your business suffers, probably crashes and your once profitable business is now bankrupt. You have enough going on in your life to deal with and before you know it, you're staying at the hospital every night and you've forgotten to pay your mortgage. Your family member passes away, you salvage enough money to pay for a funeral but you're a mess and you come home to find out that your house has been foreclosed on. You're now homeless.

I realize these may be crude examples, but you get the idea. We have the stereotypes that only certain people become homeless, but it can happen to anyone. If you had no home, no hope, everyone on the streets passed you by, you weren't sure where your next meal was coming from or where you might sleep, wouldn't you drink a little to numb the pain? Wouldn't you want a temporary escape? Because we all know the loose change people throw you out the window isn't going to be enough to change your life. Even rich people, powerful people, who have never had a care in the world can become alcoholics, (but its so glamorous when they do it) so wouldn't it make sense that people who have nothing and no one might feel that same urge? Yet we judge them. We think that our few dollars here and there might actually provide a life and home for them and that they should just get up and start applying for jobs? Get real. What they need is people who care. People who ask them their name, people who treat them like human beings, people willing to get involved beyond the car window. 


Real life encounter: Just today Jeremy and I found ourselves at a light with a homeless veteran on the corner and we decided to give him the only money we had, a $20. When we handed it to him and he realized that it wasn't merely a scrap, he started bawling. It was the most powerful and convicting thing I've witnessed in a while. It hurt me down in the pit of my stomach. Lord willing, none of us will ever know what it's like to be a "nobody," to be given scraps of change from a window, to be lumped into the group of homeless people who often go unnoticed. To see a grown man cry in front of your eyes over handing him what (to us) is a weekly Starbucks tab and have him sob over the gift, was a sobering feeling. It reminds us that above any label we can give him, he is a human being who is deeply affected by a kindness we can ALL provide. We have the ability to change peoples lives and through our seemingly small acts we are revealing God to them. His response is something that will stick with me, possibly forever. We hope it is an inspiration for others our there to go out and do the same.


The story of Ron Hall and Denver Moore in these books will change your life. I dare you to read them and encounter a wave of knowledge and realization of the power and effect you can have on another human being. You don't have to be a doctor to save someones life. You might just be the answer someone is looking for.


 


The excerpt below is from "What Difference do it Make?" To give you a little background: Roll Hall- a white guy who volunteers at the homeless shelter and Denver Moore- a homeless african american who has befriended Ron are walking around the streets of down town Fort Worth:


Ron Hall (to Jose, a hispanic homeless man): What can I do for you today?
Jose: "I needsh a reedle mooney" he slurred in a heavy spanish accent
Ron Hall: I'm not giving a drunk a $20 bill I thought to myself as I watched the drool drip down the hispanic man's chin. Smiling away, I dug into my pockets feeling for smaller change. When I found none, I pulled out the twenty dollar bill and showed it to Denver. Glancing back at (Denver) my mentor in the 'hood, I tried intently to telegraph a message with my eyes: If I give him my last twenty, all he's gonna do is go down the the liquor store and buy more booze. Suddenly Denver leaned in, and I felt his breath at my ear, "Don't judge the man, just give him the twenty dollars." Reluctantly, I held out the money, and the man took it. Just at that moment the southbound drop of drool detached itself from his chin and hurtled toward the sidewalk.
Jose: "Shank ew" 
Ron Hall: I had never stopped smiling, but now my grin felt as fake as a plugged nickel. I felt like I'd just given a push to a suicide jumper. Denver and I bid the man goodbye and headed down the road toward the mission. We hadn't gone thirty yards when Denver stopped.
Denver: Turn around and look at me, Mr Ron. I gotta tell you something. That man you just gave that money to- his name is Jose and he ain't drunk. He's a stroke victim and he's one of the hardest workin' men I ever knowed. He don't even drink Mr. Ron. He depends on people like you to eat. You know what you did? You done judged a man without knowin his heart. Now i'm gonna tell you somethin, if you gon be walkin' these streets with me, you gon have to learn how to serve these people without judgin' em'. Let the judgin' be up to God.



Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Hello again blogland

Slacking hardly defines my recent lack of commitment to blogging. Sorry about that! School will soon rule my life; so before I head into 9 months of insanity, stress, psychotic amounts of research, studying and writing there are a few things on my heart that i've been meaning to share. 


1. Human Trafficking
2. Adoption
3. Books that have inspired me, through which i'm learning new things about God.


I give you fare warning, these are not light topics. They dare to inspire, awaken, and bring to light to the real reasons why we're all here: to make a difference for God's kingdom.  I hope that the passions God has been stirring up in me challenge your heart as much as they have mine.



Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Where was God this morning?

This morning I woke up in a surprisingly good mood. I was rested, up early enough to enjoy my morning without rushing around (which is rare). I played with the dogs and even made myself a cup of coffee (even more rare than the first). As I made my coffee, I laughed to myself while I poured it into one of mine and Jeremy's many mustache coffee mugs, I thought to myself that I should text my best friend and say good morning. So, I sent Brooke a picture of me and the mustache mug, because she is the only other person I know of that finds them as funny as I do. 



Not even five minutes later she sent me a picture of her car, which she had wrecked on her way to work. 


Here I was in my happy little bubble, thanking God for great conversations the night before, waking up rested, having a relaxing morning, etc and at the exact same time Brooke was sliding off the road in her car, hitting a tree, being extremely scared, calling for help. Obviously, she was having the exact opposite morning that I was. Why her? Why did he let this happen to one of His children? It didn't happen because she isn't a christian, because she deserved it, or because she doesn't know how to drive. But sometimes it's so hard to see that when you're going through a struggle. It's much easier to blame God or ask him where he was when something bad happened. But the truth of the matter is that we have no idea what He did. We don't know if the wreck should have been worse and he made her little VW bug be extra strong. We don't know if she wrecked where she did because if she would have wrecked a block down the road it might have been with an even bigger tree or with a car that would have hurt her and her car worse. We don't know if He didn't keep her from wrecking because her car is bad and maybe next week it would have overheated and blown up (obviously these are all hypothetical) but nonetheless, we don't know. It's absurd to assume that we know more about what's best better for us than The Author of the Universe. The truth is, she is safe. God was there with her every step and He hated it as much as she did. 


*not finished but my laptop is about to die. I shall return to this post* :)

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy Father's Day

Most of you already know that I'm a daddy's girl. But what you don't know is all the million reasons that make him incredible. Today I'll share a few with you. 


#1. He is always consistent. He is always there for me, always hard-working, always putting me first. (He has even had the same haircut and mustache since I was born... Like I said, he's consistent.)




 #2. He always listens. Most parents say, "No" and that is it. Not my dad. Even when the answer was no, he always listened to my side of the story. He always gave me a chance to talk, he made me feel like my opinion mattered. When I was little I used to convince him that I couldn't go to bed unless I had a teddy graham and milk, and as I got older I wanted my teddy graham ration to increase. He would patiently listen as I told him, "I need 3 because I'm three, I need 4 because I'm four." He probably thought his opinionated, fiesty little princess was going to grow up to be a lawyer. 
 #3. He always made time for me. After working a long, exhausting day he would give me a glove and a ball and spend hours trying to teach me to play softball. Not only did he teach me to play, but he was a great teacher for tons of little girls with little or no experience. I still remember how proud and cool I felt having my dad (and mom) as the coach for my team.
#4. He has given me opportunities that i'll never be able to thank him for. He payed for all of my college instead of paying for vacations, a bigger house, or better yet, retirement. He keeps working so that I don't have to. Every day, and year is a sacrifice he willingly makes to make my life easier. He is the definition of generous, selfless. 




Not only has be payed for a dream education, but he gave me my dream wedding. He has given me everything I ever wanted, and never asked for anything in return (except good grades). He spent a chunk of savings so that I could have one perfect, glorious day to remember for the rest of my life. 
 #5. He has taught me the meaning of love. The kind of love that puts others head of themselves. He has shown me what it means to be a great man and father. He and my mom have been married for 25 wonderful, challenging, hilarious years. I couldn't be more thankful for the man my father is and the hard work he has put in at work to make my mom and I the two most lucky, spoiled people (and to my mom for putting up with him while he works his butt off). haha!








I love you daddy! Happy Father's Day. You are the most dedicated, wonderful, & loving father a girl could ever ask for!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

My 20 (not so secret) secrets

1. Sometimes I laugh in my sleep so hard that it wakes me up.
2. I am crazy about animals. I cry harder when animals die in movies than when people die.
3. I love planning parties.
3. I'm sarcastic and pessimistic (the exact opposite of my husband) which makes for pretty amusing conversations and fights.
4. I love the smell of coffee, but I don't drink it unless it's a study emergency.
5. I have my mother's thoughtfulness, but also her quick temper.
6. I'm awful at keeping secrets that have to do with gifts.
7. I love to sing and have secretly always wanted to do it in front of people, though I never in a million years would.
8. If I'm up past 1AM I get grumpy and throw a mini-fit (in my head or to jeremy)
9. I have never spent more than $40 on a pair of shoes (I have one pair of tennis shoes that cost more, but Jeremy bought them for me).
10. I own over 100 dresses and only 15 tops and I've managed to break the hanging bar in our house that's less than a year old.
11. I have about 10 obnoxious, random nicknames a piece for our dogs Riley and Sophie.
12. I love sushi. It's the only thing "adventurous" I eat.
13. I want to see the world, but I'm afraid of doing it because i'm afraid of the unknown.
14. I'm deathly afraid of needles.
15. All my closest friends are people I've known for a long time. There's something incredibly special about the people that love you and grow with you throughout all the changing phases of your life.
16. I'm a control freak.
17. I have known I was called to adopt a child since I was about 19 years old. After working with several adopted children and special needs children,  I can't imagine not adopting. It scares me to death, but I am looking forward to meeting him/her one day.
18. I like sparkling wine.
19. I got my first ticket this year for being on my cell phone in a school zone. WOMP WOMP
20. Jeremy is my dream guy. He's everything I've ever dreamed up and so much more. He makes me better, wiser, stronger, happier, and more alive every day. He has taught me more about God than years and years of going to church.